The concept: quézaco?
© Stina Stjernkvist The sparkling Margaret Magnusson, author of the book "Life in Order". In his book, the sparkling Margaret Magnusson is not afraid of taboos related to death. She, who says she is between 80 and 100 years old to be precise (!), Is concerned about the future of her loved ones. Once it is gone, the sorting out personal belongings shouldn't be a burden to people who love them. And for good reason, for some time now, she has been working on this funny method: the “Swedish Death Cleaning”. Like an act of love and a desire not to clutter others with one's belongings, it is not a tragic act. In her book, she also speaks about it with unexpected naturalness and freshness! “Putting away your life is nothing sad” she writes, to mark the start of her first chapter.
For seniors, but not only!
© Freepik Margareta Magnusson first encourages over 65 to start this sorting process. She advises to start talking about this project to those around her little by little. According to her, we should all discuss death with our loved ones. Whether you are a parent or a child, you cannot predict events. If one thing is certain, it is that no one is immortal. And yes, we are all concerned! Helping your family know what to do with such an object or item of clothing, communicating your last wishes… These are all important things to communicate to those you love. It only remains to choose your moment to speak about it with subtlety. No way to do that at the little cousin's wedding! For those with small pensions, selling certain items can even help you financially. An argument that can help get started! Once things are started, the mechanism is gradually installed and becomes a logic in its own right. But it is not forbidden to give either. To please a child, a friend or even a neighbor whom we meet from time to time ... When we know that our donation will be used wisely, we immediately feel lighter.
How to do it ?
© Freepik But where to start? By a dialogue of course! The ideal is totalk about it openly to your closest entourage. Thus informed of your “cleaning” project, they will be able to express their wishes and desires to you regarding certain objects. The rest will be donated, or thrown away. Concretely, the right questions to ask yourself in relation to an object are: * Is this object important? * If yes, does it have value for me or for others? If the object is important to you, keep it. If it has value for others but not for you, give it away. If he has no value for anyone, throw it away. Why bother life with things that are useless and useless? Often, we tend to keep certain objects to remember a lived experience, a past experience. But human memory is well done! In reality, we have no need for these objects to bring up the memory of our mind. These beautiful moments that give our soul its colors can remain engraved without any need for artifice. And to relive those moments, if you go to meditation?
Some tips to get started
© Freepik To become a Swedish Death Cleaning pro, here are some tips to start cleaning: * First, we give the maximum information to those close to him on his post-mortem wishes. If the dialogue is difficult, we think of leaving notes or labels on its storage boxes for example. *We notice in a logbook his login credentials and passwords away from prying eyes. It will only remain to hide it to his relatives. This can avoid lots of difficult paperwork related to funerals in particular. * At the beginning, we stay away from photos and letters. Less sentimental, the closet can be a great start. We will necessarily find clothes that we no longer wear!
© Freepik * Then we get rid of everything that needs to be kept secret. For example, things that could be embarrassing, upsetting or embarrassing for his family. *We do gifts ! Instead of a bouquet of flowers, you don't hesitate to offer an object from your personal collection. Nothing is more beautiful than a smile on a face! * We store our little sentimental treasures in a box on which we write “to throw”. Old love letters, cinema tickets, travel souvenirs, a dried flower, a beautiful pebble or a pretty little shell ... All these little things that brightened our lives but did not necessarily have the same flavor for them. other. Relatives are given permission to watch if they wish, to keep if they want, but also to free themselves if they feel the need. A true act of love ... And meanwhile, nothing prevents us from enjoying it again. As Margareta Magnusson says, “Yes one day, we will die. But before that, we can still try everything, or almost. ” You now know everything about this new Swedish method of cleaning up death. Do not hesitate to share, exchange around the subject. And until then, we wish you a beautiful and long life full of small pleasures!